Most of us feel pretty good about ourselves…right? Wrong! Think about it. Are you constantly filled with thoughts of self-doubt? Are you afraid of looking at your own reflection? Do you agonize over your weight? Hey, women who exude hotness are not always a size 2, 4, 6 or even 10! Women who exude hotness are fabulously comfortable in their own skin. Here are some effective tips to let your own allure shine through!

Goddess Secret 1 Resist the urge to put yourself down. The notion, If only I lost 10 pounds should stop immediately.  What you focus on internally becomes your reality. If you only think and complain about what you perceive to be your flaws, you will attract people who see these perceived flaws. But, if you focus on your terrific attributes, your insecurities will diminish and others will appreciate your beauty the same way you do.

Goddess Secret 2 Showcase your hottest assets. A truly self-assured woman has oodles of body pride and is never shy about highlighting her goods! By showing off your best qualities, you shape the way you see yourself.  Look at it this way, you've always put your best look forward when you've gone on job interviews or first dates.  Why should it be any different when you are dressing for yourself?

Goddess Secret 3 Surrender to pleasure. Remember the last time you were in ecstasy? Whether it was during a delicious meal, relaxing bath, or steamy sex, your attention was on the physical bliss. Simply put, when you focus on touch, taste, aroma or sound, you tune into your sensual side. This leads to a state of complete satisfaction. Even small things like a manicures, getting your hair done, or spraying on your favorite fragrance will amp up your physical gratification level.

Goddess Secret 4 - Be your lover for life. Create a never-ending romance with yourself by caring and nurturing your mind, body and soul. For example, write yourself a love letter or poem, treat yourself to an exotic getaway or buy yourself flowers once a week. When you spoil yourself a little, the very essence of who you are is strengthened, fulfilled and powerful.